Growing Old

I was probably just being sensitive. Or overworked.

I can understand why people -strangers- out there called me by Ibu.
"Mau beli apa, Bu?"
"Pesan apa, Bu?"
"Berapa liter, Bu?"
"Loh, Bu, ngapain naik-naik pager?!"
These people are being polite.

And then something started. If I'm not mistaken it had started to happen when I graduated from college and then it has got worst. Whenever I meet or talk to my friends (especially those from my before-life a.k.a high school, college, clubs) they call me by "Ibu".
"Apa kabar, Bu."
"Terima kasih, Bu."
"Kapan ketemuan lagi, Bu?"
"Maen-maen ke rumah dong, Bu."

At first, I thought they were just being polite. Or joking. Or politely joking. But lately, when they started to pop up in my YM and frequently called me Bu, Bu, Bu, Bu generously, I began to get really really annoyed. Like, really annoyed. And what makes me more annoyed is I cannot figure out why they have to call me (or call each other) by Bu.

My friend, Barb, joked that it was by far better than hearing them calling me Pak. Well... But then, she said probably it was just a reminder that we (by this she meant herself!) were not young anymore. I told her I was never obsessed of being young forever. But, come on! Being called Ibu by people you grew up with?!

Now, I guess you have watched Donna's character by Meryl Streep in Mammamia? Honestly, I am so captured by Meryl Streep's way of becoming Donna. Donna is a woman of 40s, I guess, but look how she carries herself. She is so cheerful, so alive, so full of life (and without a bit of regrets). Makes me wonder if I can be that young when I am old.
Donna and her friends are exactly how I pictured myself and my friends in the future. Pictured. With suffix 'd' as in the past tense. With the way they keep calling each other and me Bu and Pak, I guess I have to change the picture of them in the future. My picture stays the same, of course. I'm not ashamed to confess you can picture me growing old like Donna, more or less. So, people, especially if you went to the same school with me, stop calling me Bu!

Well, then, care to tell me about your picture?

5 comments:

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    jadi, wiken ini acaranya kemana Bu? :D

    it's ok, tante :)

    sebelum punya anak, saya memanggil istri langsung namanya.. sekarang setelah punya bayi, saya panggil Bu. Karena supaya istri tercinta gak lupa kalo sudah punya kewajiban ngurus anak.. (maksudnya supaya gak sering kelayapan ke mall, and duitnya gak habis buwat shopping shopping) hehehe. Mklum kalo sudah ketemu temen kan biasanya suka lupa keluarga. hahaha

    Aduhaduhaduh.... itu komen terakhir.... so bapak2 gitu lho! Laki gue juga sekarang seringan manggil gue mama daripada manggil nama gue, tapi gue tau pasti bukan karena alasan diatas, tapi buat menghindari ber-elo-gue di depan anak2. Hahahaha.... Gimana ya, old habits die hard :D. Mo manggil nama, dari dulu dia paling kagok kalo call me by my nickname. Hehehehe....

    As for you, maap2 nih, kyknya gak bakalan bisa gue manggil loe 'bu'. Langsung mo keselek, rasanya. Hihihi....

    Deeeeppp... ganti dong gambar headshotnya ntu. It's traumatizing, you know.

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